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    • Day Spas Coffs Harbour

      Day Spas Coffs Harbour

      As mums we don’t take time out for ourselves and pampering is usually sacrificed. As much as we love our little ones ‘me time’ could be just what the doctor ordered. So why don’t you spoil yourself and indulge in some pampering, enjoy the peace and quiet, even better...

    • You Know You’re a Mum When…

      You Know You’re a Mum When…

      From the time you find out you are pregnant, you start to realise that there is a lot in your life that is going to change. You also become aware that your priorities will become very different than what they were pre-kids. But sometimes it is the little signs that...

    • Local Mum Feature – Celeste Lord

      Local Mum Feature – Celeste Lord

      This week’s lovely local mum is Celeste Lord. Having only recently moved to the area she fills us in on what she loves best about raising a family on the Coffs Coast. Where and how long have you lived in the area and what do you love about it? I have lived in Coffs...

    • It’s Time For You Chookado

      It’s Time For You Chookado

      So you’re a mum now. And the second that baby was born this deep seeded emotion you can’t control suddenly entered your life. Guilt. It hits you like a cold day in numerous ways. It haunts you on a range of topics – feeding, sleep, play, education… It hits you when...

    • Parenting

      All things parenting on the Coffs Coast. From recipes and time hacks to the day to day ups and downs of motherhood.
    • Fathers Day 2019

      Fathers Day 2019

      The 1st of September is Father’s Day in Australia, the perfect time for honoring fathers or the important male figure in your life.  We often forget the sacrifices and contributions they have made in our lives. This Father’s Day, show him how much you appreciate all...

      Creative Easter Recipe Lunchbox Ideas

      Creative Easter Recipe Lunchbox Ideas

      Kids love finding surprises in their lunchbox and with the Easter countdown, it is an especially fun time to add a little bit of seasonable love into the lunchboxes.  With so many fun Easter cutters, food picks and moulds its easy to get creative in the kitchen.  We...

      Bulk Billed Doctors GP’s Coffs Harbour

      Bulk Billed Doctors GP’s Coffs Harbour

      Finding a new GP and or bulk billed surgery can be time-consuming.  Taken from recommendations of our local mums we have collated a list of some of the bulk-billed GP’s and surgeries around Coffs Harbour. We have also included a couple of private practices which have...

      Active Kids and Creative Kids Rebate

      Active Kids and Creative Kids Rebate

      Have you heard of the Active Kids Rebate and Creative Kids Rebate?  From January 2018, the NSW Government initiated the rebates to assist parents, guardians and caregivers to contribute towards the cost of their child’s fees and assisting with getting them more...

    • Holidays and Travel

      Holidaying with kids? Check out our top tips to make travelling with kids a breeze. We are blessed to be based here in Coffs Harbour with an awesome holiday vibe all year round. Find out the best the region has to offer for school holidays.
    • School Holiday Guide

      School Holiday Guide

      Summer is here, it’s getting hot and the kids are gearing up for school holidays. While the Coast has so much to offer with its stunning beaches, reserves, coastal walks, waterfalls and parks the kids do like a bit of variety. If you are wondering how to keep the kids...

      Christmas Day Lunch around Coffs Harbour

      Christmas Day Lunch around Coffs Harbour

      If you plan on hanging up the apron this year and want to get in to the holiday spirit what better way than starting with a perfect meal. Sharing the Christmas meal with family, friends and loved ones is the best way to celebrate the festive season, which is all about...

      Shop Local Christmas Gift Guide 2019

      Shop Local Christmas Gift Guide 2019

      Keep on giving this Christmas by supporting Coffs small businesses and “shop it local” these holidays. Finding the perfect Christmas gift is easy with our Christmas ideas guide. We have pulled together a list of some of our favourites, buy local this Christmas! Gifts...

      Where To Go for Santa Photos in Coffs Harbour

      Where To Go for Santa Photos in Coffs Harbour

      Capture that special moment in your child's life sitting on Santa's knee before he or she is all grown up. Here is your guide on where to find Santa in Coffs Harbour this season. Coffs Central Santa Photos Don’t queue, book in your private Santa Photos and enjoy the...

      Christmas Carols around Coffs Harbour 2019

      Christmas Carols around Coffs Harbour 2019

      Nothing says Christmas like the joyous sounds of carols sung together with family and friends by candlelight. If you love singing your heart out to Christmas Carols, there are some great free community events to attend throughout December. Here is the Coffs Coast...

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      From beauty, career, fashion, health and fitness, money, home, real estate and relationships. You will find it all the relevant info for Coffs Coast Mums.
    • Back to School Lunch Box Ideas

      Back to School Lunch Box Ideas

      We are nearing the start of the school year and back to thinking about the dreaded school lunches. For those that have children starting Kindy or returning back to school it can be overwhelming coming up with new ideas to ensure that the kids get some variety. Did you...

      Is Coffs Harbour a Good Place to Live?

      Is Coffs Harbour a Good Place to Live?

      Deciding on an area to live and building a life with your family can be a tough choice to make.  Many factors come into that process, and deciding on what your family's priorities are, will not be the same for everyone. So, let's think about Coffs Harbour as a...

      Mother’s Day Events and Gift Ideas Coffs Harbour

      Mother’s Day Events and Gift Ideas Coffs Harbour

      Did you know that Mother's Day is celebrated in Australia thanks to Mrs Janet Heyden, who helped pioneer it after she started a campaign in Sydney to raise money to buy gifts for lonely or forgotten mothers?  The original meaning of Mother's Day was to acknowledge and...

      Easter Gifts – That Are Not Chocolate

      Easter Gifts – That Are Not Chocolate

      Regardless of how you celebrate Easter, one thing is certain it doesn't have to be all about chocolate. If you are looking for something a little different this year or just wanting to cut down on the sugar intake there are plenty of alternatives to ensure that your...

      Creative Easter Recipe Lunchbox Ideas

      Creative Easter Recipe Lunchbox Ideas

      Kids love finding surprises in their lunchbox and with the Easter countdown, it is an especially fun time to add a little bit of seasonable love into the lunchboxes.  With so many fun Easter cutters, food picks and moulds its easy to get creative in the kitchen.  We...

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You know the mum.

The one who shows up to the gym with their perfect hair and colour coordinated outfit.

They have an organic eco-friendly meal plan stuck to the fridge. A master chef in the making, ensuring their kids have the perfect balance of macros each week.

She hand sews the kids costumes for book week and bakes brownies from scratch for the school cake stall.

The one that looks like she was just born to be a mother. I admire that mum. I might even be a tad jealous of that mum.

But I know, I will never be that mum.

And I am ok with that.

If you are that mum, I take my hat off to you. The hat that is there to hide my unwashed mangled pony tail.

As much as I would like to be the perfect mum. I am just not cut out for it. Here’s why.

There is not a single crafty bone in my body

I work in marketing so you would think I would be quite creative. And I am. But more in a writing and graphic design sense.

Crafty pursuits are not my forte. I am happy to oversee a project and tell you how I want it to look. But busting out the scissors and glue stick, no thanks.

So much so, that last year’s Easter Hat parade bonnets were left in the very capable hands of my husband.

I think he did a pretty decent job. Don’t you? (See pic above)

I forget stuff all the time

It was pyjama week at childcare recently. My daughters arrived in their normal clothes whilst everyone else was looking great in their PJs.

The struggle is real sorting through the laundry pile to find pyjamas for them to wear to bed. Let alone having them ready and looking decent enough to wear out in public.

I know I need to get my act together on this one. If it gets to the school years and I accidentally send them wearing their uniform on a mufti day, I don’t think I will be forgiven so easily.

I hate to cook

If it was not for my husband who used to be a chef, our family would be living on toast and takeaway.

I did make an effort after my first was born. The novelty was there to teach her to eat solids. So I would spend hours cutting up fresh fruits and vegetables. Steaming them, blending them and portioning them into little containers. And then most of it would end up either in the bin or all over her.

By the time our second little girl came along I was all about baby led weaning. Or as I like to call it, giving her what we are eating because I can’t be bothered doing more.

I did try cooking up one batch of food and brought a few of the pre-packaged meals. But she wasn’t that keen on either of them.

So the give her what we are eating approach worked just fine.

I don’t keep my kids’ artwork

When my now four year old used to bring home drawings in her childcare bag, I would stick the masterpiece on the fridge.

Soon enough she was bringing home a picture almost every day, which ended up getting stuffed in a drawer. When the drawer gets too full I just end up throwing them out.

One time she saw a pile of them in our recycling container in the kitchen and asked me why they were in the bin. I felt a tinge of guilt. Would she hate me for throwing out her memories?

So I put them back in the drawer.

Then threw them out when she was not around. She hasn’t asked for them since.

The previous childcare my girls went to gave us a bound book at the end of each year with their work in it. I keep that, which makes me feel a little bit better.

Birthday parties will always be outsourced

I am never going to win an award for having the most Pinterest worthy party in the neighbourhood.

I did manage to pull off a Unicorn themed party for our 4 year old this year. But I hired a room at an indoor play centre and just grabbed a few balloons and paper plates to finish off “the look”.

I outsourced the cake to someone else. I had tried the previous year to make cupcakes to take to childcare, and I think I went through 3 packets just to end up with enough for the class.

Outfits don’t match perfectly

My kids’ clothes are rarely perfectly coordinated. I try to get a shirt that doesn’t clash with pants, but that is about the extent of it.

Joggers or sandals make up their footwear choices.

Simply finding a matching pair of socks is often an achievement in itself.

Maybe as my girls get older they will want to accessorise and experiment with different looks. But while I can get away with it, pants or a skirt and a t-shirt are the staples of their wardrobe.

A mountain of washing

It is 3am. Work the next day and your toddler has been sick three times already that night. Each time you diligently change the sheets and her pyjamas.

By the time she is sick again, a quick clean up followed by throwing a towel on top becomes a perfectly acceptable option.

I’m not the perfect mum, and that’s ok.

Sometimes I feel sorry for my kids that I will never be the perfect mum. I simply get through each day doing the best I can.

But then I realise a trip to the park and a treat of a banana bread on the way home, is enough each weekend for them to think I am pretty awesome.

Whenever they are sick, only mummy’s hugs will do. When they are hurt, they just want mummy to be there and tell them it will be alright.

So perhaps I should spend less time feeling guilty and comparing my inadequacies, and more time just enjoying the chaos that is motherhood.

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